What really seems to be the ideal state of happiness is not always the steadfast recipe to stay happy. The fancy life of every Indian-American individual as portrayed by media and movies is in reality not so cool or idealistic. While every native Indian dream of settling down in the overseas and plans to indulge in the luxuries of life, it ain’t that bed of roses. Well, primarily because the cultural identity issues are quite painful and hurt the sentiments of first-born Indian-American individuals or those belonging to different ethnicities. Also, the bullying that follows suit is again a major trouble that leads to psychological threats of an individual.
If you’re someone who is raised in the States and belong ethnically to India, you would be somewhat juggling with the best of both worlds to equally embrace both the cultures with grace. From shuffling your iPod with classical Indian to western music, juggling your outfits from traditional Indians to baggy westerns, reading Amar Katha with Calvin Hobbes, holding immunity for spicy cuisine in contrast to your friends and celebrating your individualistic approach in the odds of imitating the collective one.
The ebb and flow of gradual expectations from society and peers would often put you in an awkward position, while Indians may look down on the Americans and vice-versa. This can bring upon some serious conflict in your mind, but hey, don’t stress out and maintain your calm because ABCD (American Born Confused Desi) and “Coconut” (Brown from outside white from inside) are terms just to put you down and have in real life, no true connotation to be bothered about.
Every culturally-rich Indian-American fellow must be resolute in his/her thoughts to fight the prejudices and deal with them maturely:
Ignore the Rant
However bad or mean the people are, they shouldn’t add on to your misery. Stay calm and compose, let it go. Don’t let the people have the power to demean you or let you down in adverse situations. Take things in a positive stride and accept your cultural identity.
Accept your identity
Instead of beguiling, accept who you are and your identity as an individual. It’s important to know your worth and understand your inner belief, only then, you can completely justify the argument and feel the strength within.
Follow your heart
Instead of treading the path of your ancestors or parents or friends, choose your own. Follow your heart and dreams and aspire to achieve what you always wished for. Dress up in your comfortable ethnics or western or Indo-fusion, read fictions you love, watch series you adore and do not get trapped in the compulsive need for societal acceptance.
Here are some interesting clothing ideas that can revamp your interests and wardrobe:
Blush Pink Embroidered Kurta with Palazzo
Effortlessly stylish and uber-gorgeous blush pink kurta set is perfect for your work affairs. Breezy silhouette, pastel color and comfortable, this palazzo pants and long kurta set will help you sail through packed days effortlessly. The embroidered kurta with statement flannel sleeves and feminine detailing, this ensemble will totally spike your look.
BFF American Wedding
Blush Pink Peplum Kurta with White Salwar and Dupatta
So, you two played together, studied together and shared similar set of interest, now that your blonde bestie is taking her vows, you go to look smashing on her D-Day. We know maid of honor have a typical white gown dress, however, you can’t leave your Indian ethnicity behind, will you? Well, if you want to try something different that resonates western and a good mix of Indian, go for this uber-chic blush pink peplum kurta with a stunning white salwar and dreamy sequin embroidered dupatta. Just perfect.
Yellow Embroidered Crepe Kurta with Salwar
Yellows are considered to be both auspicious and pristine in Hindu scriptures and mythology. Slip into the elegant yellow crepe silk kurta with subtle embroidery on its neckline and complement it with easy drape salwar for a smooth and comfortable outfit. Pop up bright in this vivacious ensemble and paint the town yellow!
Music Festival/ Concert
Green Georgette Midi Dress with Attached Drape
A little bit of ethnic doesn’t hurt especially when you can rock it with a contemporary twist. Exactly what this stunning midi dress with attached drape is for. The soothing subtle green color and georgette silhouette is sure to take your breath away. Flaunt your desi style with a western oomph.
Light Peach Blouse with Sharara and Floral Print Cape
Step into the paradise with your beau to a fancy date night candle dinner in this romantic light peach blouse with sharara pants ensemble. Layer the dress with a light sheer floral printed cape that will steal the spotlight and let you garner the adorable compliments. Complete the look with sleek hair and minimal jewelry.
Big Fat Indian Wedding
Pink Lace Saree with Zari Sequin Border
Oh, so it’s the Indian wedding in America, calls for a serious dress-up! Just slip into the blush pink lace saree with zari detailing and sequin border to entice the coterie and feel the Indian-ness naturally. Nothing in the world can replace the eternal elegance of a saree.